It matters what we say and how we say it. The heart behind our words matters even more since the heart drives our words and tone. During my 40 years of marriage, I have learned to speak 10 phrases that have made a difference in...
Kid’s say the darndest things. When I was in kindergarten, my teacher put on a play for the parents. Along, with several other children, I was an egg underneath a towel awaiting my cue to get up and hatch. When the cue came, I was...
Growing up, I lived close to a small hill. As neighborhood kids, we used to sled down it in winter, roll down it in summer and whenever we wanted to test our warrior spirit, play “King of the Hill”. If you are unfamiliar with this...
A husband's nightmare is hearing, "I'm not attracted to you", "I am no longer in love with you" or "I am thinking about contacting an attorney." These dreaded words can transform a fairly normal guy into a desperate husband. I have written 10 proactive alternatives...
John and Mary know their marriage needs help, and though Mary has mentioned counseling now and then, they continue to put off doing something about it. I get it. Seeing a marriage counselor is not on most people’s bucket list. It is understandable but also...
Sometimes couples who start out communicating with love and kindness, build up so many unresolved issues and so much bitterness it is like they have angry dogs locked in their hearts. When this occurs, their former words of adoration and appreciation may deteriorate to barking...