We do not fail when we realize we need help. We only fail when we know we need it and do not accept it. Couples are all about having an expensive wedding. Much goes into saying “yes to the dress”. I believe it is much more important to say yes to the help.
Patty and I met in our late teens. I was a sophomore in college and she was a freshman. We dated, fell in love and got married two months after graduation.
Neither of us had much dating experience prior to meeting each other. Neither of us had much in the way of life experience. We both grew up in very sheltered homes and were clueless about life and marriage.
We rented a tiny apartment a week before we married. We almost spent the first few months living in some friends of my parent’s basement. When we spoke our vows for better or for worse, we didn’t even have jobs.
We adored each other but had no idea what we were doing. About 6 months into our marriage, it was so obvious we were floundering, some older friends (in their 30’s) asked if they could lend us a hand. We said yes to the help.
Over the last 40 years we have said yes to the help many times. We have had help with our marriage, with our parenting, with our finances and with our careers. We have had help through some very difficult life experiences.
Has it paid off? You bet.